I can’t say I am much of a religious person but I use the phrase ‘everything happens for a reason’ at every opportunity. I don’t believe in fate or karma, but I do believe that being disgustingly optimistic about life is the best possible way to live. That’s why I take every downturn, every trodden moment in my life with a ‘everything happens for a reason’ approach. I don’t believe there is some cosmic force out there guiding my path, throwing my obstacles my way, but I do believe in purpose and providing meaning into your own life. I use ‘everything happens for a reason’ as a way to be stronger, to stay optimistic, to keep going. If something doesn’t go as planned or if I’m thrown an unexpected curve ball you’ll find me spitting out my ‘everything happens for a reason’ mantra like it’s going out of style. And it does happen for a reason. It happens because it’s an opportunity, to get stronger, to be braver, to gain perspective. It happens because life happens, and believe it or not, there is no controlling that.
I’ve always been a planner, a list maker, a dreamer, but I’m learning more and more that my sense of control is merely an illusion. Accepting the fact that I have no control over what happens in my life has been humbling to say the least. I can work towards a career that I have planned and dreamed of, but unexpected turns can bring me to a hold. I can budget for a lofty savings account or a nice vacation, but I can’t control whether or not I get sick, or how terrible the weather ends up being. We have no control. None. Zilch. Nada. What we describe as control is just the slight influence we put on the direction we are heading. Giving up the idea for control has been difficult, but once I got past it, once I walked through the door to the unknowing, I felt…free. It’s amazing how embracing the fact that you have no control over what comes your way can make you feel more in charge than ever, because the one thing you can control, is how you react to those constant changes. You can be strong, you can be brave, you can be daring.
There are things going on in my life right now that are unexpected, but are making me stronger, wiser, and making me realize more and more who I am and what my purpose I will have in this one wild life I am blessed to live. I’m struggling, I’m learning, I’m growing, and I’ll come out of this a different person, a better person, a new me.
You have to keep moving. If I’ve learned anything it’s that life is going to keep shuffling along whether you move with it or not so you better keep moving. When big things happen to you, unexpected things, you can let it control you, let it hurt you and damage who you are, or you can face the new occurrence with all the might you’ve got and show that change that you can handle the big bad world and all it’s got stacked against you.
I stood on the dock at Sea World on New Years Eve this year with the love of my life’s arms wrapped around me, with a courage in my heart, and a new anticipation that this year held big things for me. I watched the fireworks, and I felt a stir in my soul that this would be my year, this would be the year I’d make a difference. It’s a ‘do big things’ kind of year.
And I was right, boy was I right. 2012 is going to be a big year and whether I am ready for it or not, I am positive that this one will go down in the record books as a year that changed my life.